My fiancé' wants us to register at Bloomingdales and Lowes! I am mortified. Has this ever been done before? Any suggestions to ease my embarrassment?
Katie
New Jersey
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Dear Katie,
As a woman, I can understand the initial sense of embarrassment you would feel. Anytime we do something that is uncommon, especially when it comes to wedding planning, we have a tendency to over think what everyone's reaction might be.
When it comes to registering for your wedding, you both need to remember that you don't want it to look like a big "wish list" of things that you've been wanting. The real purpose is for family and friends to buy you things you will need to start your life together.
So, let's assume that you will be doing some things for your new home and that items from Lowes would be helpful. Try writing something like this on your registration card:
It is no longer "He" and no longer "Me"
We have changed it to "we" and forever we'll be.
I am creative and he's quite manly
Unsure what to get us, gift cards would be handy!
I love to cook and he likes to mow ...
So I registered at Bloomingdales, and he went to Lowes!
Bride and Groom are registered at: Bloomingdales
Gift Cards to Lowes in any amount would be great too!
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Dear Andi,
I was asked to be my best friend's maid-of-honor, but I know she is going want things to be more extravagant then I can afford. I feel guilty saying "no," but I don't have the money. What should I do?
The theory that states, "what I did for you when you got married will be done for me when I get married" is not quite the case anymore. As today's economy changes and we as a society continue to become more and more budget conscious traditions for bridal parties and bridal party responsibilities are quickly changing.
It has been assumed to be "bridal-law" that the maid-of-honor was technically responsible for taking on all financial obligations when it came to the Bridal Shower, bridal gift and bachelorette party. In many cases, bridal parties as well as other family members have contributed to these expenses; however ultimately, the maid-of-honor was left to figure out how to finance the wishes of her Royal Bride and the rest of her Court.
Based on today's latest advice from experts like Emily Post, one of today's leading etiquette experts, "Maids-of-Honor are NOT responsible for anything more the offering moral support and a helping hand to the bride. Decisions about expenses relating to dresses, bridal shower budgets, bachelorette parties and all financial obligations should be discussed from the beginning."
If your lack of finances may cause problems for the bride, this must be disclosed upfront so that the bride is aware of any and all potential problems. If you fail to disclose this information and budgets aren't set, then the only one you can blame for false expectations is yourself.
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